Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
As a mom I know there are things I swore I'd never do as a parent that I now do nearly on a daily basis. And my kids are just fine. And that my loves is the inspiration behind this. Enjoy!
10. Letting sleeping babies sleep. No matter what.
Ask any mom the craziest place her child has ever fallen asleep and you'll get some INSANE answers. Even more insane sometimes is that we just might let them get that nap out right there. When you've been trying all day to get your child to go to sleep before you go to the grocery store and they refuse, and then they even fight it all the way to the store and scream the entire time your inside, only to slip into a coma-like state just as you turn your blinker on to turn into your driveway, there's no way anyone in their right state of mind would pick that child up and wake them up. Hell no! You park that car in the shade, creep out of the car as quietly as possible, open the doors, roll the windows down, whatever you gotta do, and you peek out every few minutes to make sure they're okay, and you let that baby sleep!
Fell asleep in the high chair, hands still smashed in their sandwich? Let 'em sleep, and get out of that kitchen as fast as possible!
11. Ignoring that wet diaper.
Ideally we'd change diapers after every little sprinkle, right?
But when its 4 am and you go into the nursery to peek in on your sweet little one who is snoozing soundly, and you notice that diaper is swelling like no ones business, you have a choice. Wake the little guy and change him, and then listen to him scream for an hour afterwards, or pray that it doesn't leak and let him sleep for another couple of hours and change it first thing after waking up. Choices, choices.
12. Laughing when they do something bad.
When your kid drops something and says "Shit!" its probably not the best idea in the world to laugh at them. But sometimes its hilarious. Actually, most times. Who cares where they heard it. No ones judging here!
13. Not caring what they eat.
Sometimes it just doesn't matter. Hungry babies mean fussy babies. And some days, especially in that second year, kids refuse every food you put in front of them. Its exhausting. So every now and then if you make them eggs for breakfast and they scream and kick and ask for a Little Debbie cake, you just give it to them.
An entire CUP of sugar required for every pack (you know the sugar free kind taste like crap).
They drink the entire jug before dad gets home from work.
15. Getting a babysitter just because.
Hate parents who let someone watch their kid every weekend to go out and drink?
Send your kids to the sitter (or grandparents) every weekend to stay up all night, have "private" time with your husband, and sleep all day?
16. Letting them cry.
You know they're okay. You know they just want out of the crib. But you're right in the middle of something, whatever it may be, and every one says spoiling a kid is a bad idea. So you choose the cry it out method, even if they aren't going to sleep, and convince yourself you're teaching them to soothe themselves.
17. Hiding in the bathroom, the closet, the pantry, wherever.
Feed your kids a delicious and healthy snack when you're craving a king sized Snickers, sneak off, lock the door and eat it. Kids screaming at the door? Just adds to the fun of it.
18. Letting them watch a bad show/movie just so you don't miss it.
Its time for the new episode of Sons of Anarchy.
Do you miss it and catch it later so your kids can sit and watch another Disney movie or better yet send them to their room and listen to them scream so loud that your neighbors would think something VERY bad was going on?
Hell no. Sit 'em down and teach 'em a thing or two about what not to do in life. Duh. We all know in this day and age Facebook and Twitter will spoil EVERY episode of every show if you miss it!
19. Dress them for you.
There is a very small window when you can dress them the way you want to so take advantage of it.
Every time you put that HORRIBLE huge bow on your daughter's head and force her to wear itchy nylons, just remind yourself that in a few short years you'll be arguing over her slutty outfits of choice. Sad, but true.
20. Not giving them your techie toys just because every other mom does.
So what if there are 10,000 free toddler apps.
So what if every time you go to a restaurant you see kids playing with iPads and iPhones.
Those things aren't cheap!
I wouldn't pay $600 for a kid's toy, and I'm sure not going to give them MY $600 toy just to shut them up.
NOT. GONNA. HAPPEN.
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
If you've read my post about "free" Christmas, you know I'm serious about my frugal lifestyle, especially my frugal VIRTUAL shopping sprees. I get literally hundreds of dollars worth of stuff free every year. I mean really free, I don't pay a dime for any of it. I don't pay for diapers, EVER, I absolutely refuse, I don't buy baby wipes, and I don't buy kid's clothes unless I just absolutely have to have them. And I don't get crappy stuff free either. Almost all the clothes I get the kids are either boutique style stuff or they're Gymboree. The baby wears Huggies diapers and we use Huggies or Pampers wipes. Of course you can get anything "free"... toys, anything from Amazon.com, or anywhere that accepts Paypal.
Here is where most of the eyerolling comes in. I do surveys and I resell clothes. That's it. That's all I do. No coupons (sometimes some promo codes for free shipping or a percentage off but thats it), no scams, nothing. I've been doing it for about 2 years now, going on 3.
There are thousands of survey sites out there but only a handful are worth your time. The only one I've had lots of success with is OpinionOutpost.com. There are lots of long profiles to fill out at the beginning that you don't get any money for but once you fill those out they start sending surveys. Each survey pays anywhere from 50 cent to $4.50. They take anywhere from 5 minutes to 45 minutes. If you go to the site and click take survey every day you get a lot more opportunities than you do if you just wait for them to be emailed to you. Plus once you've done it for so long you get more and you are so familiar with them that it doesn't take you any time to do them. I like to do them on our Kindle so I can walk around the house and just do them a little at a time. I "cash out" a couple of times a week, usually for $20. You can either get a Paypal payment (its instant), a CITI card, or Amazon promo codes. I love the Amazon promo codes but the Paypal stuff works out better for me.
I also use InboxDollars (if you use them, make a separate email account for it. They send TONS of "offers". They are one of the few sites that legitimately pay you to read emails. You just open the email, click the "I've read this message" icon, and you get paid for it. They send out a check once you reach $30. They also have surveys and easy little tasks and videos to watch and stuff to help you get there. Really simple site, just takes a lot longer than OO. I also like Hotspex a lot (they pay via Paypal) and Vindale, Pinecone, and sometimes Toluna (really I don't cash out with them often but I like doing their surveys because you get to try a lot of products free. Same with Pinecone, and Pinecone pays you for every survey)
1. You join via Facebook
2. You get $5 IMMEDIATELY for joining (they are called "photons"). You can also earn more money for all types of stuff (commenting on items, referring friends, organizing the boards of stuff so they are in the right category, etc.)
3. You can pay via credit card, debit, or Paypal, or you can meet the person somewhere to pick up
4. You can sell your own stuff on the site and add shipping on to the price and every thing. I sell my kid's clothes when they outgrow them and even stuff I find really cheap on clearance racks, and you wouldn't believe how much you can make. I actually get close to what I buy the things for, which I NEVER get from the "yardsale" sites on Facebook. No one tries to haggle the prices (at least not usually) and you can sell just about anything. I've seen furniture on there, electronics, everything! The best thing is there aren't any fees. NOT EVEN IF YOU SELL IT! Its so much better than eBay and so much safer than Craigslist!
5. Watch the money roll in! I accept Paypal payments and whenever someone buys my stuff I get paid within a day after I ship it. I print my shipping labels with Paypal so that I never pay anything out of pocket for shipping and I can just send the hubby off with my package when he goes to work. Then I have more money on my Paypal account to do what I need to do!
I use my survey and Yardsell money for everything. I can order movies on Amazon Prime with my Amazon codes from Opinion Outpost (the cash out is just $5 for Amazon codes!) and I can order diapers from Walmart.com with Paypal and just stop by and pick them up when I'm out (store pick up is free! No shipping charges!) I do this with my wipes, toiletries, and anything else I see on the walmart site that I need. ToysRus also accepts Paypal and so does the Disney store so when Retailmenot.com has some good promo codes for shipping, I can get free toys! Paypal has a "in store" option now at some stores, Abercrombie and Hollister are a couple!, and you just enter your info on the credit card machine! So awesome! And also, you can use your money you got for selling your kid's clothes to buy NEW clothes on Yardsellr. And I mean literally new! I buy so many brand new Gymboree outfits every week and never pay anything out of pocket! Its awesome! and by the way Yardsellr also sells lots of brand new clothes (with tags, some still in the plastic wrapping!) from Victoria's Secret, Abercrombie, and Hollister. Plus lots of designer bags and cosmetics!)
I know this is brief and not so detailed but I wanted to get the word out about Yardsellr and Opinionoutpost both! I love these sites and I want to help all you mommies!
Oh and hey, while you're at it... check out my Yardsell :)
*hey nothing wrong with some self promotion lol*
Thursday, June 28, 2012
You hear all of the positives of staying home all the time: you never miss a minute in your child's blink-and-its-over childhood, a better bond between mom and child, no daycare germs coming home, etc., but very rarely are the negatives thrown out there.
Really though... does anyone ever mention the downside before you throw yourself into it? Hell no! Thanks to the lovely way society portrays stay-at-home moms, we think we're going to get to sit at home every day, sleep until lunchtime every day, catch up on reality tv, soap operas, and talk shows, and maybe run to the store a couple of times, a doctor's visit here and there, oh and 20 playdates a week.
I'm pretty sure most of us envisioned something like this:
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Saturday, June 16, 2012
Friday, June 15, 2012
Guess who is very guilty of this?
::stand up, slowly raise hand while looking down::
Yep...me. This is bad on so many levels. Probably the major reason this is so bad is for the followers. Now number wise I don't have a shit ton of followers. Thats okay! Blogger isn't really the place to go for that... if I wanted a million followers I would have made my tumblr a fitspo blog and went from there. I do however have a lot of girls who depend on our heart-to-hearts via Facebook to get them through the tough stuff in weight loss. And God knows there are SO many ups and downs! Especially for moms! When I reached my weight loss goal, I also found myself in a crappy situation: we needed some extra income around the house so I took my stay-at-home-mom butt to work (at a gym albeit!). My schedule bounced around... a lot! So I went from being a mom with 3 kids who I stayed at home with all day, to being a mom of 3 who had to keep those kids on their schedule while maintaining a new work schedule that changed all the time from 9 am-12 pm and going back at 6 pm-9pm! So I wasn't able to do anything except focus on work and keeping everything up with my kids. Thankfully we stuck to our schedule and things are still going great, BUT my social "media" life disappeared completely. My poor blog was thrown under a huge pile of things I no longer had time to do. My weight stayed the same, thank God, but I actually STOPPED working out (and remember, I worked at a full service gym!) because I didn't have the time or energy and wasn't eating enough to give myself that energy. So that toned body I worked so hard to get just turned into a freaking mushy mess. All my messages just started piling up too, I couldn't even make time to reply to every one! I felt horrible!
Now here I am again, back to being a stay-at-home mom, though I am working from home now, and I want to get back to what I feel like I was meant to do. I get so many messages with questions about every thing... health and fitness stuff... Adipex/Phentermine advice... parenting questions.... schedules... couponing... you name it, I get asked it. I don't know why people come to me with stuff like that, but they do and I LOVE it. I've always loved the advice columns in newspapers and magazines and of course I have my big Carrie Bradshaw newspaper column dreams so I thrive off that!
So for all of the people who depended on me to help them with their weight loss, who I unintentionally let down... I'm back! I promise! And I won't let you down again! AND I haven't forgot about you! I've been checking your progress, creepily lurking through your blogs and facebook pages and checking you out! Even if I haven't commented, I've seen it, and I'm proud!
Now for a shameful confession:
I'm not in great shape at the moment!
Numerically my weight hasn't changed but I know my body fat percentage has went up! I slipped up and in my slump and lack of time I found quick fixes in soda and way more meat that I'm comfortable admitting I've eaten! My jeans are still the same size (3's, which I'm STILL proud of!) but they're fitting a lot tighter in my thighs now :( My water weight is more evident than anything to me because I've introduced soda back in my life and its gotta go!
So for all my girls who read this and keep up with me on FB-Don't let me slip! REMIND ME TO BLOG IF YOU SEE THE ENTRIES FADING OUT! It motivates me- you guys push me! I don't lie on here: if I say I work out so many minutes and eat whatever, then thats what I'm doing!
I got the Brazil Butt Lift dvds today and the first work out kicked my ass. I can hardly move my legs. I'm watching that documentary Forks over Knives and its reminding me how much I need veggies in my life so I'm going here in a few hours to pick up a ton of healthy foods to get me back on track. I big good bye to soda again last night and thankfully that and bread should be my only major vices (I can always cut most of my meat out, I don't care for it too much). I'm not much on sugar anymore so thats no big deal at all. I need my energy back! I want to do this! And I need you guys, so don't let me down!
Thursday, March 29, 2012
I don't have them often to be honest. But Lord has it hit me lately!
I feel like I've been working towards the same goal since I was 18 and I still haven't made it even half way there. Its so frustrating when I look around a see people I know from school who literally haven't worked half as hard as me and my husband, haven't been through have as much, nor deserved half of what they have, and yet they have EVERY thing. A house that their parents helped them get by giving them a loan or cosigning on a mortgage with them, good jobs that they got because they "knew someone", and of course...big huge famillies who babysit free of charge so that they can both work and have the money to pay bills as well as enjoy a social life.
I on the otherhand started with nothing. Never had a car bought for me in high school, had to get one myself instead, never had a car payment made for me, never had bills paid for me, never got a loan from anyone, never had anyone co-sign on anything with me, never had help at all. I thought somehow things would just happen, that I would go to school and get a good job and buy a house and be on top of things. Instead I went to school, had a job, quit to have a baby, then went to get another one only to find that the economy had completely collapsed, and have since been lucky to find a decent waitressing job. Of course because I've never had a cosigner for anything that means I've never had a chance to build credit so I can't get that mortgage I've dreamed of, not even when I had a downpayment that was well over 10%. All I wanted was to find one of those amazing foreclosed homes that are valued so far above the asking price and fix it up and have my own dream come true. Instead I'm stuck paying twice as much as I would pay for a mortgage payment on rent every month, then still have to add the huge stack of bills we have on top of that.
While all of my friend's husbands have had the same steady jobs since BEFORE the economy went downhill, we've been hoping and praying for temp jobs to eventually go permanent for three years now! (Trust me, they never do.) Every time we're doing good, finally on top of things, finally doing well, the job ends. Then we're screwed until something else comes along. So here we are again, back to job searching, back to being so close to losing everything that its terrifying, and of course, no help from anyone (not that I would ask, but still...). Sometimes I just want to slap the girls in the face who complain about their bosses at work and their frustrations with not being able to go on VACATION and make them realize that there are people like ME who would honest to God take a job at McDonalds if it comes down to it just so I can get by with my family. Hell, if I could find a job for my husband and me both and actually figure out a way to afford day care so we could both work and live comfortably, I would NEVER complain about work! I would be SO HAPPY! And vacation? My God I haven't been on vacation since 2006! Sad huh?
I count my blessings daily, I honestly do. I'm so thankful for everything down to the troubles that I have (if nothing else, they make me more grateful and also give me great stories for grandkids one day!) but sometimes a less stressful life would just be nice. I feel like I've been through too much to just keep having more thrown at me every day. So many people just have it so easy it makes me sick. Its like everytime I feel comfortable breathing and loosen up a little and think, "Okay we're going to be alright now! Things are going great!" its like the world wants to prove me wrong.
Sad sad times.
I'm so stressed, its driving me nuts.
And sorry to just complain.
:( Its just one of those nights.
Thursday, March 8, 2012
So next week will be six months since I had my 3rd c-section. I'm really proud of how far I've come, I was around 160 lbs when I was discharged from the hospital and now I stay in the low 120 range. I went from a 10/12 to a 4/5. I haven't had any slip ups at all, even without Phentermine, and there hasnt even been any pounds that I gained back. I'm finally back down to a 26 inch waist line and my thighs are almost down to 20 inches which is the most exciting thing for me.
I would like to tell all of the ladies who follow this blog and write me on FB with their own updates, that I'm so proud of you and for you! Even if you feel like you have a long way to go, dont go back. The road back is quick and eay but its a dead end once you get there. Get healthy and happy while youre still young. If I can give birth to three babies in three years, all by c section and can still improve my body, so can you. If you knew you would only have one car your entire life you would do everything in your power to maintain it and make it last. So treat your body like you would that car!
Even at my goal, im going to continue working on becoming healthier every day. If I can make the time so can you. So stop making excuses and get up and change it.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Thanks to a whole lotta family drama, I'll be withdrawing from Facebook for a while if not for good. Its not really that big of a deal to me but there are a lot of faces I will miss seeing everyday! With that said, if I didn't get your number before I deactivated then you can email it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I also have a tumblr you can follow: http://lostinthelookingglass.tumblr.com/
Anyway, good weekend. Went to supercross in Atlanta, then Sunday had a fun family day at the zoo and then dinner.
I've lost two more lbs in the last week, so yay for me. My pregnancy jeans are loose on me now, but I've been living in Victoria's Secret sweats and leggings anyway.
Boring housewife week but maybe i'll post again :)
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
I am currently BELOW my pre-pregnancy weight which is huge for me!
I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to only healthy eating,
I've always been diligent about toning and strength training but never much for cardio
Thursday, January 26, 2012
and as far as weight goes that would be 20.7 lbs lost i do believe :) not too shabby for one month!
Friday, January 20, 2012
social media is an outlet. i know this. i get it, i use it, i love it. but what i don't love is going to look at the latest feed and seeing complaint after complaint, gossip, trash talking spouses, trash talking people who you feel the need to note, in the very status that you're talking trash in, that you have blocked, nor do i care to see that every other day you and your boyfriend/husband/child's father have broken up, hate each other, are now obsessed with each other again, whoops decided to call it quits again, blahblahblah.
yes i know there's a lot of people who get tired of looking at pictures of my kids. yeah, i get that not everyone wants to see my weight loss updates, or my coupon/free stuff tips, etc.... BUT at least these are POSITIVE things.
if your man treats you like crap, chances are every one who knows him and you as well already gets that. so.... maybe its not so shocking when you post for the 10,000th time that you split up.
no one can judge you for putting up with it if you keep your mouth shut and don't tell the world just what it is that you ARE putting up with.
just as i feel no need at all to judge anyone else's relationship, i don't judge parenting skills either. now if you abuse your child, neglect them, whatever, that's a different story. but hey, breastfeed/bottle feed, car seat/booster seat, disposable diapers/cloth, whatever, go for it, you bring kids into the world and raise them as your own, its not my responsibility to tell you how to do it. but please don't complain about your child's behavior if you're unwilling to meet halfway on a discipline technique!
ask me anything about how i keep my life chaos free and i will tell you: schedules! routine! don't message me begging for advice and help getting your kids under control and getting them to sleep/eat/stop throwing tantrums/use the potty/whatever else and then tell me- i try a schedule but baby refuses to stick to it.
EXCUSE ME....who is the PARENT here?
don't be a pushover and give your child the adult role in the relationship and it will work.
don't want your child sleeping in your bed? TAKE THEM OUT OF IT! the really nifty part about kids being LITTLE is that you can physically remove them from a situation and place them in a completely different one!
won't stop crying when you lay them in their bed?
ask yourself these questions:
need a diaper change?
scared of the dark?
once you rule out all of these things (and BTW, if they're scared of the dark... leave the light on. who cares) shut the door and walk out. make their room a safe environment that encourages bed time. if they won't stop playing with their toys, put 'em in a big box or two or three whatever every night at bed time. REMOVE THEM FROM THE ROOM. its the child's room so it should be CHILD proof/safe anyway, so if you take the toys out and you know they're safe, the door can be shut and they will be fine!
will they cry?
will they kick the door?
will they hit their head on the wall over and over?
go in and check on them periodically and if they're okay, but their butt in the bed again. Don't say a word. just walk in, pick them up, put them in the bed, turn the light off, walk out. easy as that. if they fall asleep they might not make it to the bed, they might be asleep in the floor. so what?
boohoohoo, baby cried all night because they were scared.
put them in bed at the same time every night. lay them down at say, 9 o'clock. if its 3 am and they're still up, oh well. as long as you know they're okay, go to bed. they'll fall asleep eventually.
TAKE YOUR BUTT IN THERE AT 9 AM and WAKE THEM UP! Drag them out of the bed if you have to. spray water on their face to keep them awake when they do get up.
you are the ADULT!
chances are if they went to bed at 5 am and mommy made them get up for the day at 9 am, yeah its gonna be a CRAZY annoying day, but I bet they'll take a nap at the time you want them to every day and they'll be ready for bed at 9. it might take a few weeks, but it'll happen. before you know it you'll know its 9 pm by the way they're acting because their body will tell THEM they're TIRED and they'll try to fight it. eventually they'll only cry a little and then before you know it, NONE. and i guarantee you they'll get up every day at the same time no matter what.
do they switch back and forth between foods every other day?
one day they love something, the next they hate it?
STOP GIVING IN.
don't make them one thing and have them tell you NO THEY DON'T WANT IT and then turn around and spend another 20 mins on something else just to have them turn that down as well.
LEAVE IT SITTING ON THE TABLE. IF THEY GET HUNGRY ENOUGH, THEY WILL EAT IT!
of course this isn't ALWAYS the case, but most of the time the troubles people have with their children come from their weakness and the lack of discipline they give the children. children thrive off of routine and discipline believe it or not.
i will never tell someone to "spank" their children.
BUT i will tell you that if a child does something repeatedly and NEVER faces the consequences for what they did, telling them its "bad" isn't going to change anything. they don't care. as a matter of fact that sweet little angel of yours probably LOVES to intentionally do bad things just to see you get irritated about it and do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
its like that game that
time out works wonders.
oh your child won't sit in time out?
neither would mine, i always said.
here's the trick.
put a chair in the corner and make this the time out spot. no one can touch it or even come near it unless they're told to sit there. its not a fun place to be.
know that little rule that you put them in time out for a minute for every year?
1 year=1 minute
2 years=2 minutes and so on?
that doesn't mean sit them down and listen to them cry and kick and scream for 2 minutes.
THAT WOULD JUST BE STUPID.
it means sit them in the chair and tell them to look at the wall and not to talk or cry and after 2 minutes they can get up. if they choose to sit there silently for 2 minutes, good for them, they can get up. but if they choose to kick the wall and scream and cry, throw themselves out of the chair, hit their face, play with their feet, laugh at you, talk to you, whatever, JUST IGNORE IT AND START THE TIME OVER AGAIN. if you want to warn them, go ahead, but i advice you just flat out ignore it.
THEY MIGHT BE IN TIME OUT FOR 6 HOURS BUT I BET YA THEY'LL EVENTUALLY SIT THERE, BE STILL, AND SHUT UP SO THEY CAN GET UP.
remind them from time to time that every noise they make, every movement, etc, the time starts over. i just say "2 more minutes" and go on about my business.
when they get up, get down to eye level with them and tell them why they were in time out and make them apologize. if they won't apologize, make them sit there again. the point is to learn whats right and whats wrong.
know how dogs sense fear? well, kids sense weakness. and when they sense it, they take advantage of you.
okay okay, moving on from the child thing.....
FOOD. Diets. weight....
touchy touchy subject, huh?
if you're overweight,
PLEASE, never EVER EVER EVER put someone down for dieting.
STATUS UPDATE: starting a liquid diet! fun!
COMMENT: that can't be healthy!
ummm you know people can survive days and days without food........ right?
you know that doctors put people on liquid diets.......right?
mmm.... how many doctors ever said HEY! THERE'S A BIG MAC! ADD SOME EXTRA SAUCE TO THAT BABY, MAKE THE FRIES A LARGE, SPRINKLE SOME SALT ON THEM, AND GET CHA A LARGE COKE TOO! OH AND DON'T FORGET THE MILK SHAKE AND BAKED APPLE PIE.
also.... don't go on Pinterest and pin 10,000 fitspo pics and say you're going to look like that soon and you're going to work out like this and you're going to lose this much weight and turn your life around and eat healthy..... and then pin 100,000 recipes for chocolate cake, cookies, 2500 calorie casseroles, and then top it off with pictures of you devouring it getting posted straight to facebook after you make it.
its like a meth addict updating their status and saying okay guys, i'm going to get clean, i'm so proud, no more drugs everyone! Lets do this!
don't want to be fat?
want to get in shape?
do what i do... pin those recipes, make them for someone you love, watch the joy THEY get from eating it, and pin a few for yourself that are healthy, and make those.
then go spend half the time that you spent cooking working out.
might not seem like much, but its a start!
OH, and girls who want to post subtle hints about how tired they are of seeing everyone's kids every time they get on FB, and they're so glad they aren't like "everyone else and getting pregnant"...
most of US don't care to get on FB and see pictures of you in ANOTHER slutty dress, at ANOTHER party or club, drunk again and looking like a hot mess, holding your cigarettes, and hanging all over ANOTHER guy, who isn't your boyfriend.
and for those moms who live at home with their parents and don't work, or work and let someone else watch their kids all the time, and then go out once the kid is in bed or go out EVERY weekend..... please just don't EVER brag about your skills as a parent. sitting on the couch nursing a hangover while your kid watches TV and eats a meal that your mom made them is not "mommy time". mommy time would be changing diapers, cleaning little butts when they get off the potty, picking up their messes, making their breakfast, lunch, dinner, giving them baths, tucking them in, whatever.
COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO SOCIAL MEDIA BUT ANNOYING ALL THE SAME... people, stop taking GOOD people for granted. i get the joy of experiencing this daily for the most part. if you have someone who loves you, who takes care of you, who thinks of you all the time, who would do anything for you, don't ruin that just because you're a jerk. there are a lot of bad people in the world and those bad people make it harder for us good people because nowadays everyone just thinks everyone is out to screw them over.
DON'T MISTAKE KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS. just because i might not come right out and say it, if my feelings are hurt i'm not just going to swallow my pride and ignore it, i'm going to remember it. screw my over once or twice and then prove to me that you are sincere when you say you made a mistake and you're sorry, then we're okay. screw me over again and it doesn't matter how sorry you are, i'm done. i will not invest my time into someone or something that doesn't deserve it.
just because someone is family doesn't mean they're exempt from this either. just because we share blood, you don't have the right to walk all over me, use me as you please, take advantage of me, and expect me to forgive.
it'll be a cold day in hell before i take that.
there is only one time in life when i am just down right mean and that is when i'm hurt. if i'm going on and on throwing the cruelest words at you that you've ever heard, if you think i hate you and don't understand why i'm so cold towards you its because you did something that has SHATTERED my heart.
i let people see me cry for too long, i let them see what they did to me when they hurt me and i saw the satisfaction they got from that and i realized i had to stop it from happening again. hurt me today and i might push it down so far in me that you don't even realize you add had an impact on me at all, but just wait it out and you'll see how much anger manifests from pain. and it feels a lot better to let out than some lousy ol' tears do.
if you're a skanky girl who has a good guy who works hard for you and you take him for granted and treat him like crap.... SCREW YOU.you don't deserve him, let him go. i have my own good man who i love with all my heart. he might make me mad, i might wanna kill him sometimes, but he works hard for me and our family and he takes care of me in ways no one else ever has. and because of that i'll take care of him like i feel like a woman should. i'll cook, i'll clean, i'll handle the kids, i'll wash his clothes, if he needs me to i'll even lay them out for him, because i know if nothing else, he's rare. good men are hard to find these days and if you take them for granted when you have them, you never deserved them and there's a wonderful girl somewhere being treated like crap and wishing she could find a man like the one you don't want.
finally for all those people who put down stay at home moms: find a new hobby. okay, you go to work for 8 hours, 12 hours a day? cool. you get paid right? you get a lunch break... right? you can stop at any point and run to the restroom.... right? you get at least a day or two off every week... right?
i wake up every day right after the sun comes up. this is, of course, after i go to bed at midnight, get woken up at 1 am to change the baby's diaper and give him a bottle, go back to sleep, wake up again at 4 am and do the same thing, then catch a few more hours of sleep before i'm woken up by a 2 year old and a 3 year old SCREAMING at me to wake up. oh wait, not just wake up.
make me a cup!
i peed in the bed!
mommy, i'm sick!
yeah. imagine your boss standing beside your bed at 7 am telling you to get up and start working.
once i get the clean clothes on, the breakfast made, the juice poured, the table cleaned back off, and have them entertained for a minute, the baby is awake and needs to have his diaper changed, a warm bottle made, burped, clothes changed, etc. then when i can get him entertained for a few minutes i get to start making my breakfast. just as i sit it on the plate, someone is hurt, someone is crying, someone is sick, someone made a mess, someone is breaking something. food sits. food gets cold. oh crap, its lunch time. kids need lunch, kids are hungry. make them lunch. eat my cold breakfast. clean the kitchen, clean the living room, clean the bathroom, get spit up on, get thrown up on, peed on, vomited on occasionally, break up a fight, get yelled at, drag a kicking child across the room to time out, all that fun excitement. oh finally, dinner time, time for work to be over right? not quite. make dinner, clean the mess made, wash the dishes, start the laundry, put the laundry up, bath time, baby needs to be put to sleep, oh, kids bedtime, wait lets fight that for 2 hours until they will finally stay in the bed and go to sleep. work out. time to climb into bed. CRAP! forgot to take a shower! take a shower.... baby wakes up. feed baby. lay him down for a few minutes. dry hair. pick baby up, get him ready to go back to bed. spits up in clean hair. put baby back in bed, finally climb back into bed. stomach growls, didn't ever have time to eat. go eat a snack. come back to bed. oh, cool, 2 am. hubby home from work. slams stuff around, makes noise, turns the tv on, wakes Mommy up, get back to sleep, baby wakes up. daddy falls asleep. mommy gets baby back to sleep.... finally falls back asleep too..... MOMMY! MOMMY! Wake up! I want a cup! I'm hungry! MOMMY! WAKE UP!
YEP....morning time again.
good overtime pay though, right?
OH wait, i forgot.
there's no pay involved.
NO. i don't sit on my butt all day in my pajamas watching tv.
NO. i don't get to do whatever i want and sleep as late as i want.
nope, getting out and running errands really isn't that fun. not with 3 kids. not when those errands are go get groceries, take the kids to get shots, go buy diapers, blah blah blah.
sorry to ruin everyone's idea of a housewife and mommy.... but its not an easy job!!
but its one i love.